on my last thread somebody wrote that unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.
I’m guilty of this, I’m a nurse: after changing units an expectation was that the new one would be one where the physical workload would be evenly distributed. Another expectation and a promise from management was that my new unit would assign a nurse I’d shadow during my first days to get a grip of the unit. The third expectation was that I could do my job and use my downtime to learn.
None of these things are happening.
How do I stop having expectations?
ETA: A problem I see with this approach is: if every job turns out to be shit like this, why even bother? My new attitude should be go to work, work the least possible, fake it, play theatrics to do as little as possible, go home, get paid. No expectations = no disappointments.
But then, why even advance to ICU-nursing, get certifications or study medicine?
How do I stop having expectations?
Tldr: Realize that capitalism rules our lives and has disjoint its goals in a way where everyone is just following orders with a healthy mix of Ayn Rands we all need to be more selfish.
Unless your goals are directly aligned with corporate (which hospital management is) then there is no point in pleasing you. That includes learning. They are happy to profit with you there, even if learning means they can move you to more lucrative profit opportunity. Senior managers love to trip on dollars to pick up pennies. Besides you could bail on them after you’re done learning to a competitor. Better to hire someone done learning and saves them having to pay for your learning (which you have the power to leave with before they break even)
Ayn Rand bit? Keyword objectivism. Being a selfish pos will lead to a better society in aggregate. Really at a minimum the less you work the more you are paid, so no one will want to divide the responsibilities as it represents a cut in their pay.
These are sliding scales and its up to you to determine where your peers fit on that. Even they don’t do it consciously. Welcome to the free market.
Seriously? Did people say that? You complain on here a lot and I call you out each time for your poor behavior and you never acknowledge it (even though my calling you out has been the top comment on a couple of your posts).
You keep spamming stuff about how shitty your job is and how terrible your co-workers are. But you have said that’s across MULTIPLE jobs.
The issue is you refusing to accept your faults.
