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Cake day: August 22nd, 2023

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  • We could start a buy/sell/swap space using existing Lemmy technology, if we left the messy details for users to figure out for themselves.

    Messy details add up quick, though. Payments, currencies, mailing addresses, reputation, conflict resolution, returns, scammers and spam.

    But “Craigs List” solved very little of that on day one, and went on to be pretty successful.

    So it’s possible. happening now, I’ve just learned. Neat!. https://lemmy.sdf.org/c/buyselltrade

    (Edit: Added link to the surreal thing. Thanks!) (Edit 2: I swallowed the onion whole. Mostly jokes, there, I think. I’m gonna leave the link anyway.)











  • I have to constantly remind myself to treat me like I treat others.

    I do, as well.

    I treat others. I despise myself and have great empathy for others

    I said that to myself before, as well.

    But I discovered my empathy for others became surprisingly more effective after I started an intentional practice of self-empathy.

    but that’s certainly not universal

    Certainly. This is what worked for me, and my relationships.


  • The golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit?

    Agreed. But it is a good default place to we start.

    The real skill is empathy - to understand how the other person wants to be treated.

    My empathy for others became much more effective after I started practicing empathy for myself.

    It was a bit eye opening, to me, to realize how much impact a practice of self-empathy made in my relationships.