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  • Oh for real. I’ve been on the bus and people ask questions like what time it is. I just respond with something wildly unhinged like “Quarter past where the past, present and future all have a collective existential crisis. But if you need a more convential and temporally linear answer, tis probably too late for this nonsense”. I’ve yet to have anyone say anything other than the most generic ass “Cool” response. Some even say thanks which is… hysterical.





  • To answer your title? Yes. Aggressively so.

    I don’t participate in their activities.

    That’s fine. There are plenty of friends I don’t share the same activities with.

    I don’t really ask them how they are, or what their interests are.

    One of the core things about being a friend with someone is getting to know them. That means their emotional state and their general interests. If you don’t show any interest in them, why would or should they show any interest in you? It’s a wasted investment.

    I don’t even engage in deep discussion with them unless I’m up for it.

    I mean that’s fine. It’s everything else that’s extremely problematic.

    When my friend sends a video that reminded her of me or that she finds funny, I don’t click it and just ignore it.

    Your friend reached out to say that they thought of you in a moment when they had no real reason to. They’re saying that because they care and want to demonstrate that. By ignoring that, you are telling them that you don’t care about whether or not they are interested in you. Whether you mean that is something else but that is the story you are telling them.

    Maybe my friends are growing apart and they text me less because of this

    Oh they 100% are. No one is going to stay in a one sided relationship for long because it’s a waste of their effort. They care and be emotionally open but get nothing in return except pain. By you not engaging with them when they try to engage with you, that comes off as you having zero interest in them. They’re going to start questioning why they keep talking to you when you don’t talk back. They are going to eventually come to the conclusion that you are not demonstrating any interest in them because you just simply are not interested in them. They will stop talking to you entirely and any memories they’ve had of you will become tarnished in their mind as a one-sided friendship.

    but I’m kind of okay with that because I know they will be there for me when I need it

    You are making an insane gamble here that will not pay off. Why would they ever be there for you? You were never there for them. You didn’t share in the small joys of life that they tried to share with you, why would they want to share in your miseries? They will only see you as a source of negative emotion. They will see you as sucking up their positive vibes towards you and showering them in negative emotion as they get nothing in return. Then they’ll feel used as you only talk to them when you need something from them. They will see you using them for an emotional cushion and realize that the only thing they are to you is a crutch. When they make that realization, they will leave you and never look back.

    and because I’m genuinely just tired/bored most of the time.

    So are most people but we make time and effort for our friends.

    One time, my friend asked me if I’d like to spend time with her, and I just point-blank said “No”.

    I can guarantee you that you hurt the hell of their feelings. Whether or not they said it? They were pretty upset. They offered to spend time with you because they like you and wanted to share in that. Asked if you’d like to spend time with them for the same reason and you rejected it. They aren’t going to know the reason unless you said it so they’re just going to invent a reason. With all of your other behaviors? They’re going to assume that you don’t like them at all and stop trying.

    IDK if that’s rude just because I’m being honest

    No, you’re being a dick. Being honest is telling the truth but that does not mean being aggressively blunt. That does not mean phrasing it in such a way as to hurt someone else or to be emotionally painful. You could have said no in a thousand different ways that would have been just as truthful while also not as hurtful.

    and also because it’s not personal, I don’t want to engage with anyone.

    Then you better not be surprised when no one wants to engage with you.


  • Hey heads up to anyone, but I’d highly recommend going to that other thread they made and checking the comments. They are remarkably defensive for someone who insists they are in the right. They also refuse to address such points as:

    • You joined the server to help out, knowing it was volunteer based.

    • You were frustrated after 12 days despite development of anything often being on a scale longer than it. Instead of asking questions in a conversation, you made call out videos that got people feeling defensive

    • You say you were making new videos for 12 days so the platform doesn’t go without content but then later you say you’re decompiling, without ever making any earlier mention to working on it in that regard? (I’m not watching your videos so if it says that in there then whatever but that should kinda be in the text)

    • What exactly was your plan to help? Did you ask how you could help? Did they let you know how you could? Did you do what they asked or something else?

    • He didn’t explain it but he didn’t ignore it? What?

    • You failed to produce a viable Fediverse product but are insisting that people run it the way you see fit?

    • You make ANOTHER call out video and question the entire nature/purpose of the project in a backhanded way that throws shade on Daniel

    • You complain that Dan didn’t answer your questions but when I posed questions of you, you said you didn’t have to answer them either. So is Dan’s behavior a problem or is it only okay when you do it?


    They deserved everything they got. I have no idea whether Loops will be successful or not but you don’t need to know a single thing about it to recognize the fact that this person overstepped their bounds and tried to take charge/control of a project that did not want or need their “help” and found it, at best, deconstructive to the process at hand.

    Oh yeah, and there’s the fact that they straight up admitted to causing problems. You call that sarcasm but I call that a confession when the evidence does indeed point to that conclusion.





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    No, it’s every store. They have to. If they didn’t have the signs put up then they could be legally liable for any accidents involving free carts in the parking lot. By having the signs up they avoid that responsibility by putting it on you.

    This really is just about basic common decency. The rest of us put the carts back because we still have some.