I appreciate them and their work so much. They must all have a thick skin to deal with users every time stuff is broken.

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Probably better to use a more general community for the time being, yeah

It might be nice to have a community or something where people link interesting blog posts or blogs. Maybe there is one? (plz share the link if there is!) I always used to find new blogs from people who did like weekly good post round-ups.

She embodies how i felt as a kid wearing a slightly itchy shirt.

I had one cat who didn’t like the harness but once he associated it with outside time, he’d run over and get excited when he saw us get it out.

just read it as ‘flow market,’ realized it was german, and looked up the word. it doesn’t look weird at first glance.

I agree with your decision. You should be able to personally block a brazen bigot. They made the decision to say what they said. If it was ambiguous bigotry, sure, give them leeway if you want. But it doesn’t sound like they’re trying to have a good faith conversation.

This got long and rambly, sorry.

My main suggestion: Make connections over dumb shit, like the videogames and shows you like, and eventually you’ll meet people who are real friends who want to help. That’s what a friend of mine did. They struggled for years to find a medication that did something, moving around, starting over, struggling with jobs, moving back home, and so on. And sometimes their anime conversations turned into chats about what was going on in their life, and their fandom pal’s life, and sometimes they’d just vent. Those nerdy people weren’t all winners, but there were enough who wanted to help that they kept going until they were more stable.

They had their mental breakdown around the same age you did, which is why they came to mind. I had mine around the age you are now. What worked for them is going to be different than what can work for you, but it’s worth it to keep going.

Also, shame in being where you are is a big thing that kept me, personally, from getting help. I look back at myself and I’m like, I was sick and struggling. I was allowed to be that way. Past me needed help, damn! Anyone who thought badly of that was a shithead! I didn’t deserve the way I was treated as a child, either. I was just a dumb kid! I look at kids now, and I’m like, how could you treat one of these how I was treated. They don’t know shit and will learn when people teach them!

Switching meds helped my friend. I think they turned out to have a bipolar that looked like depression, so figuring that out helped find a drug that did something. This took ages, but they joined a mental health day group at the local hospital and they had an expert in psych medicine who wasn’t afraid to switch things up. Sometimes you can get access to better expertise joining a group like that, if it’s tough to find it one on one.

I dunno. If you just keep trying stuff, you’ll have a shot at finding the right combination. Sorry about the long ramble. My 20’s sucked. I’ve met a lot of people who had shitty years who met each other because of dumb shit and that’s how they got a job, med advice, or a place to move. Maybe it’s bad advice but there are people who want to help out there and silly connections over hobbies can up your odds of finding them. Probably purely by upping the numbers of people you know, but, whatever.

Since you have OCD, the fact that you despise pedophilia is why you can’t let go of it. You grasp onto the worst possible thing and obsess over it. I can’t give you advice, because I don’t know what helps with OCD specifically, but I can tell you that that particular thoughts you’re latching onto are incredibly common. I have seen many many people with ocd admit to thoughts of being a perpetrator, and it’s always because they are so disgusted by the possibility.

https://www.sheppardpratt.org/news-views/story/moral-scrupulosity-ocd-part-three/ some advice from professionals?

https://www.tumblr.com/scrupulosity-comics/726298023477542912/i-feel-like-a-many-headed-hydra-monk-of

This person personifies their scrupulosity in their comics as a monk

I thought the cropping was just because the op was making a 69 joke

i’m curious, too. the vague idea i got was that the app just launched, people are pissed at meta, and the word pixelfed was banned on a site, causing a Streisand effect. i could just be spreading rumors, though.

I recently adopted a pet, and I keep wondering which new social media can replace what facebook offers to animal shelters and other charity orgs. Like, so long as they get that stream of donations, adoptions, and volunteers directly from facebook, they aren’t leaving without hurting their #1 priority.

If I’m making the effort to comment or post on topic in a community which mostly gets posts from one or two people, and i get immediate downvotes, I’m going to assume that’s a signal I broke an unwritten rule. I probably wouldn’t try posting there again.

Maybe have a conversation with them where you come up with a code that means “we still love you, but for personal reasons we need to step away from your venting for the moment.” you might feel better if you know they’ll tell you when they need to leave, and they can feel like they can leave safely. Your part of the code would mean ‘i will not hurt myself because you had to leave, and I also love you.’

This works for some people (an overstimulated autistic person who needs to communicate to their anxious partner they need to be alone, for instance), but not everyone, but it might be worth a shot if you can eventually internalize the idea that people can leave for a time and still care about you, and if they can deliberately put themselves first when necessary, you can trust that their care is genuine.

The ‘code’ can just be the actual words, but it can be useful to have a shorthand when emotions are overpowering.

I dunno but I didn’t have one for a while and then i did and the temperature difference is noticable. You can also swap out the glass pane for a screen in the summer.

I am genuinely and truly curious what antipornography people think is an appropriate punishment for the creation of written erotica. What is your opinion (if that is your perspective and I am not putting that opinion on you)? The read I got is most likely incorrect, then. What is correct?

Is the treatment described in the article non-punative, or is the source flawed?

I thought you said that psychologists should direct people to be healthier, not that society should decide what is allowed and not allowed. Coming from a perspective where I am a woman attracted to other woman, I am not interested in what society doesn’t like. My personal interest is in harm and the reduction of it, and science backed means of doing so.

Every government is untrustworthy and should be treated like a dangerous tool that can help or harm, depending on how the flawed humans who wield it choose to do so.

Could you share with me China’s science on the dangers of erotica? The science of it is deeply interesting to me, more so than any government position, or the erotica itself. I’m never going to think prison or fines or psychological torture are the correct responses to describing an act millions of people perform every day, but if there is evidence of harm, I’m interested in reading it. If I need to agonize over machine translations, I’m willing to give it a shot.

Such a photogenic kitty!

So you disagree with prison sentences for erotica writers, unless recommended by a psychologist?

What do you think is an appropriate punishment? My inclination is “nothing,” since writing about sex is the same as writing about any other normal everyday thing people do, but I’m always curious what would be appropriate to people who see things differently. Fewer years? A fine? Community service? I am genuinely curious.

What punishment should librarians in the US get for distributing written sex? They get a paycheck for this work. How much should Chuck Tingle have to pay, or how much time should he serve?