Very different these days. The beauty of the status bubbles and messengers of past is that you would catch each other when you both had time and desire to chat and then you’d have a back and forth conversation until one of you disengaged. You also almost never have people sending offline messages. It was more akin to an in-person interaction where you’re either visibly there and someone can approach and talk to you in real time or you aren’t.

Texting is generally of a blend between real-time messenging (but you can’t tell if they’re available) and short form email where everyone interacts differently and has their own ideas about “proper” etiquette. It’s probably somewhat cultural but in my experience, people just use messaging apps in the exact same way as they would text, so status bubbles don’t mean much.

I do this to my mom as a way to be very low-contact with her. It’s a huge relief.

I used to love texting when it was only a handful of friends but these days I hate the pressure of it being ever-present in my pocket and the social expectation to answer in a relatively timely manner. (This has led me to being a horrible texter, sorry everyone.)

I miss the old days of AOL instant messenger. Your online status did all the heavy lifting to communicate when you had some free time and felt like chatting.

It’s definitely just me, but I think every event like this is just for consumers that don’t know any better.

You’re against performing arts/live shows and think people who enjoy them are suckers? That truly is a wild take.

Tony Hawk

My mom and dad are gonna be so mad at me 😭

Yeah, and she was a full-fledged adult in her 30s onward to these things, not like a 4-year-old who wasn’t aware of what was going on around them.

Lawyers will also do free consults, so it’s worth it to at least call around to a couple of places and see how much it will cost. My partner had to do this once and one of the lawyers ended up giving us pro bono legal advice and making a call to the police just because he thought the whole situation was stupid. He was like, “I’ll call them and figure out what their plan is and then we can figure out if you even need to hire a lawyer.” (His advice after talking to the cops was that we probably didn’t need to hire him, but that there were a couple of things he could do if we still wanted to.) So that was a nice and unexpected resolution that wouldn’t have happened had we not tried to hire someone.

That makes them offensive for a particular mindset of people who want control.

Weird take. Most people who don’t like cats simply didn’t grow up around them and don’t know how to interact. It’s not because they’re obsessed with control. I mean, fine if you choose not to like non-cat people, but the control theory is just weird.

For me, I wasn’t really exposed to many cats growing up and the small handful I did meet were mostly aloof and didn’t want to interact with strangers. One cat literally just walked up to me and bit my hand out of nowhere. (I wasn’t even trying to interact with him, he was just known for being mean.) I also didn’t have dogs growing up, but interacting with them felt a lot more intuitive so I wasn’t as intimidated. I have since met some really sweet cats and I even have 2 kitties of my own now, but there’s definitely a learning curve.

Yup, I had the same thought. I met my partner of 5 years on okcupid, but it also took me years of messages/dates/flings before we found each other. Dating and finding a good match is complicated and so much of it is purely a numbers game. Online dating apps are just a vehicle to expose you to more/different people. They aren’t some binary that either does or does not work.

Yes, it also leads to people like me feeling like they need to go down a rabbit hole for 5 hours before they’re “allowed” to ask. Then, upon finally asking, they come to find out the answer was quick and simple and they could have saved many hours.

This is such a problem for me. Hot damn do I envy people who don’t let the fear of seeming stupid keep them from just asking the damn question.

I’m just objecting to the fact that you’re just acting like people with college degrees are somehow more equipped to not fuck up your coffee. That has nothing to do with it. If they truly keep fucking up your coffee it’s because they just don’t care enough and are phoning it in. People with degrees are equally capable of making you a bad cup of coffee lol.

You can’t be serious. There are plenty of college grads who are stupid as fuck. Source: have worked with many.

Also, if they’re fucking up your order that badly it’s probably just because they hate their job and don’t really give a fuck.

Whenever we would hear “Crimson and Clover” growing up, my dad would comment how Tommy James (the singer) killed himself in the 70s. Cut to like 5 years ago when I see Tommy James, in his 70s, still kickin’, on some random public access programming lol.

My dad has been repeating this “fact” for so many years that there’s a solid chance he’s forgotten it isn’t true and still says it whenever he hears “Crimson and Clover.”

I thought conventional wisdom was always that service industry jobs don’t really want people with degrees because they’re more likely to find something better and jump ship quickly. “Overqualified.”

This is a complicated topic for me. I’m 35 so my experience is obviously different than today, but I self-harmed from age 12 into my 20s. Finding community and understanding in self-harm & mental illness-focused communities was transformative for me, especially in my younger teens. Many days/months/years this community felt like the only reason I was still hanging on.

Obviously I am not in favor of the “encouragement” of self-harm, but I also wonder how much nuance is applied when categorizing content as such. For example, is someone who posts about how badly they want to self-harm “encouraging” this? Or are they just seeking support? Idk. I have no answers. I just think about how even bleaker my teens would have felt had I not found my pockets of community on the early internet. On the other hand, sometimes I do wonder if we subconsciously egged each other on. Perhaps the trajectory of my mental health journey would have been different had I not found them. That’s not something I can ever be sure about, but I think given my home life and all the things I was going through already, if anything, my mental illness might have just manifested itself in a different way, like through substance abuse issues or an eating disorder or something. (And to be clear, I was hurting myself before I found the community, so it might have just been business as usual.) Like I said, I don’t have any answers, it just feels more nuanced to me, as someone who has lived some version of this.

Taste like crab, talk like people.

It was being auctioned for the victims but there was also the real risk that a supporter would win who would let him he continue on business as usual. So definitely money well spent.

One thing the headlines aren’t mentioning is that the families actually even helped fund a portion of the Onion’s bid.

In order to make the bid work, a lawyer representing the families told CNN that the families “agreed to forgo a portion of their recovery to increase the overall value of the Onion’s bid, enabling its success”.

I hate even more that everyone somehow believes them, just because they’ve said it enough times.

She’s made videos and written books full of this vile bullshit. So we know she’s all too real, unfortunately. She exists in the Christian Fundamentalist influencer corner of the internet, which is about as fun as it sounds. Google “Transformed Wife.”