Yeah, this stuff is wild, there was a little girl years ago who had a seizure disorder, and they removed one half of her brain, she somehow kept most functions and could walk but had some weakness in the limbs on the opposing side.

I just looked her up - holy shit look at how she is today!

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/03/22/1165131907/neuroplasticity-plasticity-glass-half-full-girl

My daughter. <3

I live in Australia where the temperatures get insane and destroy most electronics left in cars.

I have a Viofo A229 PRO 3CH, it has a module that faces forward, and a separate camera that gives a view of the inside of my car as well as some of the outside sides, and a third camera on a long line that is mounted on my rear window that has a view of the rear.

The images are clear, I can read licence plates easily day and night, and after being in two accidents it gives me peace of mind that I am protected in court if someone hits me again.

This was in the side bar of that article.

What the fuck is this timeline?

It’s common in kink circles, but so is proper cleaning. It is common to use Madacide or similar hospital grade cleaners with toys that will be shared. At home we use a chlorhexidine surgical wash on all our toys.

I wouldn’t trust a random guy during a vanilla encounter to have proper cleaning and storage techniques, but would be fine if he showed me that he did.

I was a stay at home mom/wife at various times in my 10 year marriage. I hate the term tradwife, but I guess I fit the picture.

If I wasn’t working, the house was my job. I did all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry. I made an effort to freshen up before he got home from work.

We found that when I was a housewife we actually had more time together, instead of trying to smash out laundry and un-fuck the house on weekends, it was all done, meaning we could just hang out when he was off work.

I do enjoy my work so for now I keep doing it part time, but I don’t think being in a marriage that has traditional roles is all that polarising.

I filled it out as well, I hope to hear about the results!

She’s beautiful!

I am the wife of a mechanical engineer, who’s brothers are mechanical and electrical engineers, who’s parents are electrical engineers, who’s best friends are aerospace engineers.

Basically I married into a family of robots, and I agree with this commenter here.

This is the crux of why senior engineers struggle to talk about work I think, and I find the best way for me to get them talking, is to try to learn something small about their work, enough that I can ask intelligent questions, and then listen carefully to the replies.

After a while they open up and I get to listen to the best rants about “special metals” or “systems architecture” or “braking systems in the railway”. It’s awesome.

It’s how I connect with my husband.

The other wives stand in a circle and roll their eyes about them talking about work because they don’t understand anything. “Oh there they go, talking about work again.”

I decided I didn’t want that to be me, and told myself I would listen when they were talking, listen when my husband was working from home. Learn to ask intelligent questions about his work, and eventually, I knew what he was talking about.

Enough that I now freelance in condition monitoring, giving me yet another way to connect with him.

Ask intelligent questions, get excited about the replies, encourage them so they know you won’t be insulted when they assume you don’t know about <speciality subject> and you will have them opening up in no time.

What an odd take.

10 years for the children to be able to fend for themselves? Assuming you are married before the first pregnancy, then have a full term birth at 40 weeks, then wait 12 months before the second birth that would put the first child around … 8 when this hypothetical “ideal” marriage dissolved, and subsequent children even younger.

Which wouldn’t make sense at all from an evolutionary standpoint, finding another man to step in as a father is not easy, so much so that there were laws around the care of widows in most societies.

The average marriage duration is only 7 years? Seems its nearly double that here in Australia. I also have two 18 year olds living at home who say they desperately want independence but also don’t want to get a job or do dishes, and have the sexual maturity of a potato.

I don’t think we are “meant to” have any particular relationship type or length, humans are far too diverse for that.

Edit: Some interesting replies, notably both touch on the concept of “it takes a village” which I agree is something we have sadly lost in most of Western society. I however do not think it is a stand in for long term family units. Instead I think a “village” type of setup takes the pressure off parents and allows for a stronger partnership. The countries with longest marriages are all either countries with multi-generational housing as the norm, or with higher incomes per capita.

Love is not a thing that happens to you, love is an action. Love is a conscious decision, made every day. Love is work.

I once read some research done on marriages and love and what predictors there are for a marriage failing.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

That is messed up as heck.

WTF puberty blockers aren’t used for only trans kids. They are also used to treat precocious puberty.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Precocious_puberty

Yeah thats a bit odd. This is the supposed picture of him in the taxi:

and this is the picture of him above, with a unibrow:

It’s weird. How did he grow a unibrow in like 3 days?

I have another vote for loops, I now have the loop switch which I really like.

This is the image. (I use imagus or hover zoom which enlarges images all over the web upon hover)

There do appear to be civilian buildings with lights on in the image.

I read every line even though it hurts. I feel I owe it to them, to at least read their stories, remember their faces.

How have we created such monsters?

I am originally from the US but moved to AU and am now a citizen. I got lucky and got out just before Trump’s first presidency.

Life here is good. Like, better than most Americans can really understand. Healthcare is free, education is good and includes topics like critical thinking and understanding how to spot “fake news”.

There is only a small aisle of frozen food in the grocery store, not nearly as much pre-packaged food. There are affordable fresh fruits and vegetables, and outside most grocery stores is an independent baker, butcher, fishmonger, and fruit and veg stand.

Minimum wage is $24.10 an hour, and you cannot be fired for no reason if you are a full time employee.

If you compare things (and adjust for AUD to USD) like rent, gas, milk, bread, eggs… Things cost about the same here as in the US.

We pay around the same amount in taxes, and get so much more.

Things aren’t completely rosy, distressingly, Australia seems to want to emulate the US in certain ways which worries me.

There is also currently a bit of an economic downturn and while it’s nothing like what I left behind, it does mean things cost more and luxuries have to be budgeted for.

I think anyone who isn’t a dick would be welcome here. There are racist cunts here like everywhere, but generally Aussies are the kindest and most welcoming people.

*80s’

Yup. I hope they make it through this.