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  • You’ve got a bunch of nutjobs that will turn that phrasing into a white genocide conversation is the problem.

    The second part of that is that genocide is a subjective term due to classification of ethnic groups being subjective.

    Honestly this well encapsulates the problem I tend to have aligning on goals with other progressives and some liberals. Every time folks try to simplify something as complex as genocide down to a yes or no question it means they are already invalidating the majority of positions and forcing a conversation of agree with me or call me wrong. That isn’t how it works, that isn’t how discussion and debate work. Forcing people into Yes/No thinking doesn’t lead to progress, asking for people to think critically does.




  • Genocide is a term that is both over and under used. There are currently about six genocides ongoing. I don’t see the point in trying to call someone out on it because no one is actually doing anything for or against it outside of a very small number of people.

    If someone asks me if I’m anti genocide I assume they mean something they specifically consider a genocide and they are trying to use this as bait to get me to out myself in some way. They don’t actually expect I’m personally participating or countering it in any way.

    Trans rights also is a loaded term now because there are a LOT of individual rights Trans people are needing to fight for all in parallel. It’s better to be specific.

    Sure someone who says they are against trans people is awful, but I find folks set the bar in different places and use that to start an argument. The easiest example is, what age should someone be allowed to transition which is an intensely challenging question to answer even on a medical level.





  • This is a fantastic reason to talk to a therapist.

    You won’t ever really trust your friends or family who say you did nothing wrong. Other folks will try to explain it away but it doesn’t help either. Most people dealt with this and it sucks and when it hits you when you are vulnerable it can hurt for a long time.

    Focus on who you are and who you want to be and building your confidence. Focus on boundary setting and clear communication with people in general. These are skills it sounds like you struggle with based off the problems you are stressing about.


  • It can be scary for anyone regardless of gender. I’ve twice had really bad reactions, once life threatening, after a break up and I’m a big man.

    That doesn’t mean anyone is wrong for ghosting or getting ghosted. I just want to highlight that trying to focus on gender as if it matters is the same as focusing on race or size or religion. You shouldn’t say that a black person should expect to get ghosted because some people have had bad experiences with black people.

    Look maybe this person is terrible and deserved to be ghosted. Maybe the other person was awful and ghosted them to hurt them. Maybe it was just an unfortunate reaction due to personal stress. But no one deserves to be told their gender makes them just need to just suck it up and expect it. Having to deal with the stress and self doubt that comes from having someone who you thought was a part of your life decide to cut you out instantly, it sucks.








  • Debian tends to be a liiiiitle bit behind Fedora and because gaming on Linux is accelerating in popularity, being ahead can provide big gains in performance.

    Can you manually handle all of that? Sure. I mean I have Mint on my side desktop with a custom Kernel but I recognize that I am dropping a V8 into a Mini Van.