Eh, a ponytail is easy.

But, yeah, back in my younger days when I let it stay loose when I wasn’t at work, and now when I’m feeling all sexy, it can get in the way of things.

Less now, what with the balding, but still.

Tbh though, the only time I ran into heavy infiltration while eating was when there was a lot of air movement. Since neither my Jr high or high school was air conditioned, that was pretty much all warm days, and the cold days where they needed air flow. Those ceiling fans could move.

I have fairly straight hair once it’s past shoulder length, so that might help. It’s super fine though, so it doesn’t take much to get it moving.

My beard doesn’t get in the way at all. My mustache, however, when I let it reach soup strainer length and don’t use wax or balm, sandwiches are a laugh :)

Hell yeah :)

That’s fucking awesome. I don’t know y’all, but that put a smile on my face, because every win against cancer is a beautiful thing. Here’s to y’all having a long and happy life!

Well, that amount of deviled eggs is weird.

That being said, there’s some differences involved.

Moisture, size, seasoning, and chewability.

Deviled eggs have the dryest part removed and moistened. This makes eating two of them easier than the whole egg would be.

With the addition of moisture comes the ability to chew the result easier, so you don’t look like an idiot while eating. You don’t have to take a bite and roll it around your mouth while trying to get it into small enough pieces, mixed with saliva so you can swallow.

The seasoning comes in by making it taste like something you want to savor, to keep in your mouth longer.

And, since they’re half an egg, they can be popped in all at once, or in two clean bites, without spilling fragments. In either case, you aren’t sitting/standing/dancing/masturbating holding a partly eaten egg in your hand as long. This means that it looks like you’re eating less than you are, even when having the equivalent of a half dozen eggs. So it doesn’t register as someone eating six eggs, it registers as someone snacking casually.

Willing to have a casual explanation of it? An in depth one isn’t on topic for this community. And yes, this is the condensed version, I could write a small pamphlet on this.

If so, read on. If not, throw me a DM and I’ll try and give a more detailed version of my take after having changed my mind on the subject as a whole.

Neopronouns are not truly necessary. There’s other ways to achieve the same goal

However, respecting them is, and it’s important to recognize that the concept behind them is an important one.

The kind of neopronoun drag used aren’t the only kind of neopronoun. I can’t recall the name for that type, but it is an individualized version that has a different kind of merit.

The core of neopronouns is redefining gender and language. It’s reframing how we think about and deal with agender, gender fluid, non binary, and other labels that represent people for whom the traditional masc/fem/neutral pronouns don’t really fit. Now, yes, the singular neutral they/them does partially achieve that. But it isn’t necessarily perfect because it’s the same as just saying “other”.

Standard neopronouns like xe/xem/xyr attempt to rectify that, in part, by providing a general use new (neo means new) words that are inherently without gender, and are also internally consistent (hence why xyr replaces the plural they/them rather than leaving that in place).

What dragon rider’s pronouns do (and here I’ll switch to just calling the person drag because arthritis) is a furtherance of that basic idea. The concept of individual, single word pronouns takes the concept of reframing gender in language to its logical extreme.

Now, here we have to address the elephant in the room. Otherkin. Otherkin are the folks you think about when you see a lot of individual pronouns. They also want their pronouns to be different from the norm, though they don’t all want individual ones. They do tend to want pronouns that reflect their belief that they are different by being kin to their other. That’s a simplification, but that’s a tangent on a tangent already

Drag, afaik, isn’t otherkin.

The connection to drag is that the individualized pronouns look similar, and it’s where most people draw the line. Now, I have my opinion about that side of things, but for this purpose let’s set the assumption that their belief is valid.

That’s where we get back to drag. Drag, in choosing their user name, set up a fight from the beginning. I don’t know if it was intentional or not, but choosing dragon (rider), and dragon fucker as user names, it was inevitable.

But drag is not actually their user name, nor what you would call a name at all. It isn’t directly linked to them wanting to fuck dragons, which aren’t real. It’s a knock on effect.

Pretend, instead, that their user name is southsamurai, and they wanted the individual pronoun “sam”. Still some confusion, obviously, but it isn’t a fight from the beginning.

So, if my pronouns are sam/sam, I’m requesting an individual pronoun. I’m saying, up front, that by requesting that, that I have a sense of myself that doesn’t work with standard gendered pronouns, nor with the commonly used neopronouns. I’m saying, please interact with me as an individual, not as a generic person.

That’s why it matters. Now, I’m not saying anyone has to agree to use them. I’ve had many a discussion about that, and not just with drag. It’s a big ask. It’s asking everyone you meet to upend their brain and restructure their language pathways entirely, so that they can fluidly switch between known individual pronouns, and generic ones, without making errors.

But, even if you aren’t willing or able to do that, I have come to agree that the point of individualized pronouns is important, and that standard neopronouns need to be adapted to, because language does matter. Our thinking is shaped by those language pathways. Language is how we exchange ideas, and (except for people that don’t think in words at all) it’s how we process our thoughts.

There are languages with no gendered pronouns, and some with long lists of them because there’s more than two recognized genders, or because the pronoun used is grammar based regarding when and where it’s used.

So, in English, our entire mind is influenced by having only three standard options: masculine, feminine, and neutral. It’s inflexible because of that. And, you can see evidence of that via the rejection of the singular they/them, despite it having been a part of the language for much longer than trans issues have been in the public awareness.

Again, you might disagree about that. That’s fine, I’m not trying to convince you, just trying to explain why I changed my mind from “that’s silly” regarding all neopronouns, to having the opinion that they matter.

I now think that they matter because it’s an effective way to shake up the way we think about gender and language. I think that’s important because we all suffer limitations based on the limited English pronoun structures. In order to improve that, a shakeup is needed.

Drag is the reason I changed my opinion, and that’s despite still having objections to individual pronouns as being more trouble than they’re worth at this point in time. That’s also despite my impression and opinion on the otherkin side of things being a hindrance to everyone else.

I gotta add in some support to this.

I specifically said that using individual pronouns was more trouble than it’s worth to me, and was not banned.

I even questioned the role of neopronouns, what impact they have, and expressed my opinions that disagree with some aspects of it (which changed, btw), and was not banned.

And, I specifically rarely used their (drag’s) neopronouns during any interactions on the instance and was never banned.

Considering I’m a known asshole, and I’m confident that some of my comments got reported because people said they would/did, I never got banned from the instance, and afaik not from any communities, though I’d have to check the mod log to be certain of that part.

Regardless of whether or not anyone agrees with the policies regarding neopronouns, the admins have a pretty damn good track record of enforcing them evenly. Yeah, that’s partly because they didn’t ban me, but if my pissy, contrarian ass didn’t get banned, it certainly points to them paying attention to nuance in their decisions.

Also, as a tangent to all of that, I know trans people irl that depend on blahaj lemmy as their place of support and community. If making a place where people can have that did mean being heavy handed, even if it meant I got banned, I’m okay with that. We need a place like that. Now more than ever.

Okay, I have to make a few assumptions to come at this.

First, that because you’re using English, you’re going to be most interested in an answer framed about the systems of the countries where English is a, or the, main language used.

Second, that you don’t want a shit ton of detail, because you otherwise would have looked possibilities up yourself, because there’s character limits.

Third, that because you asked here, that you don’t want a pile of links (which I’m rarely willing to do nowadays anyway).

So, here’s my general purpose answer within those assumptions, which means precision and accuracy aren’t 100% a factor. None of this applies everywhere.

So, we gotta start with trials. A trial assumes a state, as in a government of some kind. Could be as small scale as a clan or tribal council, could be as big as a nation.

If you don’t start there, it gets crazy trying to fill in.

A trial, by definition, is when the body of the populace (the state), regardless of the organization of that populace, accuses someone of having violated the rules of that body. It’s the “state” saying : you did this, and the individual or group saying “nuh-uh”.

That’s the gist of what criminal justice is.

By the nature of such a thing, you have to have a way of deciding what is and isn’t okay during the trial, and you have to decide who determines the outcome. In monarchies, or feudal systems, it would be whatever ruler is in charge, though they may delegate that decision (as in a crown prosecutor, and judges)

Point being that a trial is inherently adversarial. It’s an accusation against a person or persons, and them having to refute that.

In order to bypass that, you have to eschew any organization of people at all. It’s person vs person, no trials, they hash their shit out. Which is still adversarial, but we have to limit this.

So, there’s always sides when there’s a disagreement. It’s unavoidable. If the state says you did it, and you say you didn’t, and you’re allowed a defense at all, the only question is what sides do what, with what resources. A panel of judges is just as adversarial in practice.

When did that start? At least as far back as written history. It’s a dilemma that’s human. You ever have a sibling or other relative say you did something? If you didn’t do it, or you don’t want to admit you did, until that issue is resolved, shit is unpleasant.

If it’s your siblings, mom and/or dad make the decision, fairly or unfairly.

In a bigger group, it might be the elders, or whatever. Accusations of wrongdoing require resolution for a harmonious group.

When decisions are made by a single individual, like a king, you have to rely on that king being smart, fair, and even handed, as well as wise in handing out resolutions.

So, people all around the world have rules for that.

A lot of the kind of rules you’ll find in the US, Canada, Australia, and places that used to be owned by the British Crown, follow rules that originated as British law. Not every detail, see the initial assumptions and disclaimers already made. But, as a broad thing, the body of law built up in England heavily influenced law in places they owned or dominated.

A lot of that has origins in Rome and Greece, and other preceding cultures, but that’s outside the scope of this.

So, chances are that whatever legal system you’re asking about, came about because of the way the British Empire did things. But you can look to the Magna Carta for the more recognizable facets of it. That was a document setting out rules between the ruling people on how they would treat each other.

But the key to it is that people, in general, need protections from people in power. So those in power sometimes agree to have a system in place to minimize unfairness, at least on the surface (and that’s ignoring how successful that is or isn’t).

That’s how it came about, an attempt to spread out or blunt the power of the state against individuals.

Like you said, panels can work, as long as all the power isn’t vested in that panel. If your group of judges isn’t perfect, then it’s no better than a king making the decision arbitrarily.

In theory, having the state have to present a case, while the accused offers a defense, and a jury making the decision while a judge makes sure everyone follows the rules, should be the way least prone to corruption and even when it fails, it should still be a mitigation of abuses of power. Obviously, it doesn’t work perfectly. As long as the rules are applied evenly to all, and the base assumption is that the state has the onus of proof, that’s as good as it gets in terms of humans trying to make decisions about other humans.

To bring this to a close, let me apologize for things being disjointed. We have a rogue rooster to deal with, so I’ve been writing this in between handling stuff, which means my thoughts were not allowed to flow the way I’d prefer. So I know I missed stuff, and that it doesn’t all connect the way I’d prefer. But I gotta figure out what the hell to do with this little guy, and that means no editing.

Well, if your pussy is purring juices, you may have over stimulated it.

You forgot one bottleneck. The bottleneck.

puts on ban proof armor

To be fair, don’t we all like fucking a hairy pussy?

I know, I know, bald pussies exist, but it just feels wrong when you rub your dick on them.

However I draw the line at eating pussy. It just isn’t healthy, and you don’t know what you might catch from it. I mean, have you seen the mess they leave behind?

Death awaits us, a warm embrace after a cold life, giving surcease to the plague of human misery.

That is a very natural way to hold a rat

Like the other guy said, you missed a part, an important part

Damn, you see those worms? What did you do to the can?

Look, this is a very hot button subject. So I have to make a disclaimer.

Trans rights are human rights, full stop.

TERF: trans exclusionary radical feminist.

There’s two parts to that. The first one is “radical feminist”. That ideology is where the people that hold to it believe that society as a whole has to be restructured to eliminate patriarchy and male domination. Those two things are damn near identical, but there’s enough difference to matter for some things.

The other part is “trans exclusionary”. As should be obvious, the concept is a rejection of the principle that trans women are women.

Now, the term terf has expanded to include any woman that rejects the womanhood of trans women, even if they aren’t actually radical feminists.

So, no, not all terfs are actually feminists. But only because the terminology has shifted. At this point, I think it’s fair to say that it’s shorthand for transphobic women despite its origin.

That being said, yeah, radical feminism is an accepted aspect of feminism as a whole, so technically any terf that is a radical feminist isa feminist.

That’s the strict answer to your question

Here’s the problem with that.

Who decides what is and isn’t womanhood? Who decides what is and isn’t acceptable in defining feminism, or who is and isn’t a feminist?

Within the framework of radical feminism, and only within that framework (see my initial disclaimer for my belief), trans women being born with male anatomy can exclude them. There are inclusionary radical feminists that see trans women as a natural extension of the principles. Some of those, however, also lump trans men as enemies because they’ve abandoned their womanhood to submit to the patriarchy.

Radical anything tends to be about absolutism. It’s all or nothing.

And that’s where terfs fall. That’s where radical feminists fall, no matter who they do or don’t include/exclude. So, it’s actually difficult to peg them as transphobic, because the underlying belief system is not the same as other forms of transphobia. It does still fall under duck rule (they walk and quack like transphobes), but when it comes to deconstructing their arguments, you have to come at it from a different angle when combating their attempts at enforcing their beliefs. It’s like trying to fight a grease fire with water if you don’t come at it right.

I know that’s beyond the scope of your question, but I think it’s an extension that matters.

Right now, the war is about survival. And that war currently is one that needs minds changed. If you go at terfs as standard bigots, you run afoul of women that aren’t terfs, but can be influenced by them when they can claim to be targeted as women.

In their heads, it’s a battle to keep men out of women’s spaces, to keep the invasion of men into yet another aspect of women’s lives. Since the fallout of misogyny and patriarchy is actually a constant pressure to fall into line, any attacker becomes the enemy. You can’t sway the undecided when you are actually attacking the terfs as bigots, dismissing them yet again for being women, for not acquiescing to external controls.

You have to go specifically at their arguments, surgically. You aren’t going to sway the terfs. But you can sway others by deconstructing their arguments, in a way you can’t with a “normal” transphobe that’s using religion or arbitrary hate (woke haters mainly) as their driving cause.

I’m not saying that you can’t counter terfs. That you have to accept their belief as valid. Again, see my disclaimer. I’m only talking about how to frame the war of words to limit their effectiveness.

Part of that is accepting that they are a branch of feminism, or can be.

If you can get a copy of the apk, it still works fine. Might have to jump through some hoops on some Samsung devices though. They started bring dicks about old apps. But they work fine, it’s just getting it installed.

It was always a pointless and stupid thing to begin with. It’s schoolyard bullshit. There’s way better things to call him.

It happens

Here’s the trick to that.

It’s their body, so they have a say in things. Ideally, anything that’s about their body would be their choice, but some stuff just isn’t realistic, like medical decisions as one example.

However, they’re also going to deal with the fallout of such decisions.

A lot of kids, not just boys, go through a phase where they reject the seemingly arbitrary enforcement of hygiene standards.

So, when they make an adult decision, they can deal with adult consequences.

You aren’t required to sit in a car with someone that smells unpleasant. Nor at a dinner table, or on the couch.

Now, if them not using a given product doesn’t cause them to smell bad, there’s zero harm in it, so a parent would be a dick for trying to enforce an unnecessary thing, even by that method. If you’re trying to enforce pointless things, you’re fighting the wrong fight. Believe it or not, deodorants and antiperspirants aren’t the only way to keep oneself from smelling bad, and not using them doesn’t always result in an unpleasant smell. There’s a lot to be said for just bathing daily and giving the pits and crotch a scrub when you’re in the bathroom for other things

However, if they aren’t willing to do what it takes to not stank, remind them that adult choices have different consequences, and that you aren’t obligated to take them places, let them use your vehicle, sit around the dinner table with everyone else, snuggle on the couch for movies, or even sit on the couch at all. You can also enforce that they clean their private spaces (bedroom or other spots that they have where they have an expectation of privacy) more often so that those places don’t start to smell bad either

A stanky adult is quickly going to discover that people don’t want them around when they stank. Might take a while for friends and family to start objecting seriously, but out in the world, it can happen fast.

But respect body autonomy while doing so. It really, truly is something that they need to have. And it’s important to teach them that they should be able to expect body autonomy, even when there are consequences to some of the choices made.

It works. I’ve seen it work dozens of times, because I come from a big extended family that used to spend a lot of time together. Every generation of kids, there’s going to be a handful of them that express their body autonomy like this. Maybe it’s not bathing, maybe it’s deodorant, or hair washing, or a clothing issue. Staying gentle, but not backing down about it, you both keep their trust, and show them that every choice has consequences, even if tiny ones.

My personal phase, it was very effective. My grandmother, if I was smelling rough, would tell me to go wash up as soon as I walked in the door. After the first few times, it was “you know where the washcloths are.” If I didn’t wash, I could bloody well sit outside if the weather was safe. My mom and dad enforced similar boundaries.

Took maybe a couple of days before I got the point, and a couple of weeks before my stubborn ass decided they had a good point, and improved my routine.

Will it absolutely work for everyone, every time? Of course not. But it’s a gentle way that helps foster a sense of self control, of having a say in their life, as they’re needing to explore who they are the most. The key though, is gentle but firm.

You don’t say “you stink, go away” or some shit. You say “washing up is mandatory if you want to sit with the rest of us.” You make it a choice, if a limited one. Give them as many options as possible, too. If they’re objecting to deodorant in specific, maybe offer washing up, or changing clothes if the smell is more from that.

In other words make it about the actual problem rather than them. It isn’t that they’re bad or dumb, or anything else like that. It’s that personal hygiene is important for skin health, and social interactions. They don’t necessarily have to shower to be clean. They don’t have to use deodorant to not smell bad, or to smell good. So present them with alternatives after figuring out why they don’t want that specific method

Well, if it helps, I have a friend that sings and plays lead guitar in his band. I’ve also been present both when they’re performing and recording. Dated a less professional singer as well, plus was forced into a chorus class as a teen.

Singing is not easy. You’re not only using your vocal cords, you’re using your whole body.

You’re breathing in fast, while sustaining long phrases with vibration. This makes the entire throat get dry, and draws blood into the throat tissues. Mucous production does increase, but it’s in response to the irritation and stresses, which means that everything from your lips all the way down to your lungs is working very hard.

Singers all have their own remedies for this. I don’t know any that use a spray, they tend to favor soothing beverages of some kind.

But even doing a single song, with warming up before singing, causes minor irritation. The process of recording a single track can be enough to need a decent length break, depending on exactly what you’re singing and how. Some notes (usually the ones in your highest resister) are more strain than others, and if you’re doing unusual techniques like growls, screams, overtone singing, etc, it can be more stressful to the anatomy.

I’ve recorded both a fairly mild metal growl, and some overtone singing with my friend. My throat felt like I had strep after maybe a half hour of work. Took me that night and the entire next day to feel better. But I’m an amateur, so most singers wouldn’t take that long to recover from a minor amount of work.

But doing an hour on stage, or recording all day? Your throat is going to feel rough no matter how well you treat it.

Afaik, atomizers with breath spray used to be pretty common. I used to take care of old folks, some of whom went through the great depression as adults. A lot of them had those.

Disposable ones have been a thing since at least the 50s, if my memory isn’t failing. Binaca used to have commercials back before cable was ubiquitous, and a lot of people carried some to freshen up breath.

So, somewhere along the way, the specific trope of a guy spraying once or twice before hitting on a woman crept into social awareness. I never dug too deep looking into it, but it allegedly apparently was a thing.

The culture of lots of coffee at work followed by a drink or three after at a bar wasn’t exactly great for oral hygiene overall, and definitely makes breath funky.

The singer part of the trope, where you see them spritz before hitting the stage is supposedly a different thing. That was from stage actors, but that’s as far as I’ve ever looked, that it was a thing. No idea what they used, what the reasoning was. Never piqued my curiosity enough to look deeper.

Thank you :)

And your English was perfect