my girlfriend really doesn’t like my friend of several years. she is constantly snippy with him and she and her friends, i’ve heard, talk behind his back and say stuff about how annoying he is.
i was treated the exact same way when i was bullied, so it really got me reminded of that and i got a little upset but thought i overreacted.
i’m giving her the benefit of the doubt, just wanted to share that. i hope i’m dating a nice person and not secretly a bully.
edit: we broke up.
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Not overreacting, it could be a red flag. I would say your feelings and thoughts definitely are valid, but give her the benefit of the doubt and also ask what’s going on, don’t make false accusations. Break up with her if she turns out to be bullying your friend and/or making you choose between her or him as an ultimatum.
Might not be a full on red flag but it’s immature as hell.
Isolating people from their friends/family/support-system is the foundation of every toxic relationship.
She should be able to express not wanting to hang out with given friends of yours in a safe and constructive way.
I have friends my wife doesn’t like, i have friends my wife absolutely adores. In both cases clear boundaries and respect for the fact that these are my friends were made.
Agreed.
Hiii. That sounds so rough :(
I’m glad you’re giving her the benefit of the doubt, but you should be able to talk to her if this continues if she is a nice person. Her behavior is a reflection of her, not you or your friend.
do you have many friends? if so is this one closer than others? Its a red flag if she is trying to mess with your support system which is something some people do. well and cults.
this one is my friend who is my best friend but she didn’t know we were friends at all, she just thought he was some guy. we broke up anyway.
We’ll sort things out :) We will discuss boundaries and it’s ok for her to not like all my friends, i will eventually ask her mot to bully him if it comes to that though
This is a tough one. If you have friends that have been with you through thick and thin and she didn’t like them, tough!
If other friends are maybe a little more like acquaintances, maybe the spouse of a friend you like so you tolerate them, then no big deal, but I think she needs to deal with them in a mature manner.
she broke up with me anyway… thank you!!
A lot of fish in the ocean. Good luck to you.
