The title isn’t exaggeratory, I have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder in 2024. It took me over a year to realize I had an issue.
I didn’t treat my friend well at all. I often mocked him or belittled him, but come 2025 I really did try to be better. I confessed to him my issue and told him I wanted to be better.
And yet in doing this, he lost a lot of trust in me. We got into more arguments and had this cycle of arguing, he tells me we’re done, and he comes back to me and it starts over again.
And today? Well I told him we are in a super unhealthy cycle. That this is draining and it is bad for both of us. So that is it, we had a bromance breakup.
It fucking sucks. I hate losing a friend. I hope he can do better without me.
I’ve never heard of a narcissist that could self-reflect. Everyone else is always the problem (in their own minds). Are you sure your diagnosis is accurate?
How NPD actually is and can be and how it’s portrayed or thought of by the general populous are much different things. Just like with plenty of other diagnoses. I had a friend with it who was a wonderful person who genuinely worked her ass off and sought plenty of professional help to get better. They’re absolutely capable of self-reflection. (At least some of them. Obviously I can’t speak for everyone.) There’s all different types of people with NPD just like there’s all different types of people in general.
Idk, I had the same question as above - my parents didn’t have an iota of capacity for self reflection in them. Imagine a sadistic toddler and you’ve got the idea. If OP sees their problem, they’re much better equipped to improve themselves than others with NPD, and more than most people in general.
I’m so sorry. It sounds like you did the right thing in the end, since it does sound like it wasn’t a healthy relationship, although I’m sure it hurts a lot right now. Don’t give up on bettering yourself! I know you can do it, and you’ll make new friends along the way.
I have never heard of “breaking up” with a friend. Quite interesting from a certain standpoint. But I’m sorry you lost someone. I hope there is a way to get treatment for this.
Well, idk how else you can call it? It’s a loss of someone you care about and it hurts. Focusing on the inner child’s needs (and on healing childhood trauma) is probably the main thing to do, along with some medication maybe?
It’s not about nomenclature. What I meant to say is that I’ve never ever considered the possibility of a situation where the proper outcome would be ending a friendship because of how the included parties treat each other.
I don’t have any mental illnesses or other behavioral issues that cause me to be toxic towards my friends, or make me interpret their actions or words in a negative way to the point where anything becomes a problem, so it’s difficult for me to put myself into that mind space.
So I simply meant to say that this was quite eye-opening for me—that’s all. 😅
Wow, really? You’ve never had shitty friends? Or ones that you don’t get along with, to the point where you call it quits?
