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  • the hardcore autistic stuff

    But that’s the stuff that’s fun! A good game is a game I have a spreadsheet for.

    When I was a pre-teen, I used to play Diablo with a married couple that played together. (I never met them IRL, just in-game.) That created some unrealistic expectations for me about romantic partners and computer games - I wanted to date a woman who shared my interest in games, but I never met even a single one and so I gave up on that long ago. A couple of women I dated did want to try playing games with me because they were interested in sharing my hobbies, but they were so bad at the games I liked and the games they wanted to play were so casual (and they were bad at those too). I knew I was being an asshole but I still refused to keep playing with them. It was just too frustrating.

    I should clarify that I didn’t expect someone who had never played games before to become a pro instantly. What bothered me was that they didn’t even seem to want to win. Nowadays I just accept that I’m way more intense about games than most people (not just women) are and so I deliberately avoid showing that part of myself IRL. It wouldn’t look good.


  • The fact that the salute is so offensive, they did it so blatantly, and their denial was so disingenuous is the point. It’s a demonstration of power. They can do a Nazi salute and their opponents can’t punish them. They can deny that they did a Nazi salute and their opponents can’t control the narrative. If they did something more subtle, then people might think that they weren’t facing any consequences because their opponents were giving them the benefit of the doubt. With the Nazi salute there is no doubt. The only explanation for why they aren’t facing any consequences is that their opponents are powerless.


  • There’s no benefit to cutting contact as a matter of principle. It won’t impede Trump even a little and it probably won’t change your dad’s political views either. Is he willing to avoid talking to you about politics? Do you enjoy his company when he isn’t talking about politics? If the answers to these questions are “yes” then I see no good reason to hurt him and yourself by cutting contact.

    I think that every two people in my family have serious disagreements about some issue, but the world wouldn’t become a better place if we all argued and then stopped talking to each other.



  • I don’t think that performing as part of a band is against the spirit of the competition, as long as the devil is still being judged according to his individual contribution. Or would you require him to perform a capella if he was in a singing competition?

    And anyway, the devil went before Johnny - if Johnny objected or wanted his own accompaniment, he could have said so.


  • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.workstoMemes@sopuli.xyzWHY
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    6 days ago

    I deliberately picked an example where there isn’t (or I don’t know) a feminine version. Most words that I can think of for various categories of people do have two genders, although in many cases the feminine version sounds awkward to me, a little like the “trix” suffix does to English speakers.

    (Also, the male default sometimes makes using the feminine version of a word sound like you’re deliberately emphasizing that you’re referring specifically to women as opposed to simply talking about someone who happens to be a woman.)




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    My native language is gendered but I still don’t always know how I’m supposed to talk about male members of a species with a feminine name or vice versa.

    “A person by the name of Mary was…” “Person” is masculine. Mary can hear me and I don’t want to offend her. “Was” has a masculine and a feminine form.

    I think the masculine form of “was” would be technically correct, but then do I have to use masculine pronouns? “A person by the name of Mary was there and he…” The real answer is to rephrase what I said to avoid awkward grammar.