Been through this before, so I know it gets better eventually, but what do you folks generally do to optimize beddy-bye time? To the insomniacs, what are some things you do in the wee hours/early morning for a relaxing start to your day?

This morning’s choice is checking out the music of Casiopea - saw them mentioned in a meme here recently, then later on saw one of my favourite gig spaces has a great local fusion jazz band doing a show covering them at the end of the month. Very chill, feels like menu music of a mid-90s Japanese 3D game in a very good way, lol. Funny how these things happen sometimes, kinda like seeing the car model you just bought everywhere on the road shortly after purchase.

  • VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    If I’m on a T break, I do a nighttime routine to prepare my body for bed. No screens/reading/herbal tea or some such. I also like to buy cranberry juice to sip on - it gives me something to do instead of smoke and cuts down on the anciness surrounding the oral fixation part of smoking. As for sleep - if you’re not quitting to pass a drug test then just take CBD. Seriously, CBD is all the relaxing parts of weed with none of the high. Maybe it won’t make you pass out like smoking a fat blunt, but it will definitely help take the edge off. Then you can kick the CBD after a week or so and it’s a much smoother transition into sobriety.

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      Solid advice in general, particularly for people approaching this for the first time.

      The only issue I’ve had subbing out CBD is, I usually get it in flower form (legalization in Canada has it’s pros and cons - ready access to CBD flower, even if the choices are a bit limited, is a definite pro). You’re absolutely right - it does help with relaxation without getting ‘high’. But previously, I’ve found myself smoking it a bit longer than I’d like, with an inkling feeling of “You know what’d make this better? Some fucking THC”.

      Danged if it didn’t help as a break-glass option for the insomnia in past breaks, though. And I do have some CBD pills I got my wife left over I could break into if all else fails.

      Appreciate the comment!

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    One tricks I’ve discovered when trying to fall asleep is to try and identify objects in the visual noise you see. Actively identifying a shape makes it appear and leads to more shapes, like an association chain. This really helps me when I can’t sleep, it turns off the thinking part of my brain and allows me to shut off.

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    Celestial Seasonings Tension Tamer for sleeping and relax. Rooibos for Calming and clear thought. Yerba Mate for Waking up and organized thought. I throw the Rooibos into my Yerba Mate drink to start with too. Rooibos lasts about 6 hours. Yerb Mate is everything you thought coffee was going to be that first try but it’s like that every time.

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    I like easy tidying as a wind down activity. Mostly putting things back in their place. For bed, I have an ereader with warm lighting that’s been great. If I’m without it, something that calms my mental zoomies is practicing the alphabet backwards. I start forward with chunks, “abc - cba,” “abc, def - fed, cba,” etc. It keeps my mind active till I get bored and want to fall asleep.

    In my experience, and from speaking with others, taking a break from cannabis can mean remembering dreams more vividly. It might be worth leaning into that: write dreams down when you wake and think about them when you go to bed. I find if I try to think through a dream and build on it, it puts me in that dream-state and I drift off.

    Oh, and one last tip. Lights work better than alarms for some. So if you put a lamp on a timer, it may help normalize your wake-up time, if that’s an issue.

    Good luck!

  • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I’ve heard a tip, have not tried it, that if you stand next to your bed and repeat “sleepy, sleepy” to yourself that it helps. Don’t know why but a psychiatrist said it.

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      Interesting! Probably something to do with reinforcement. Wonder what evidence supports that (totally believe it’s a legit suggestion, just curious how people reached that tip).

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    I established a solid bedtime routine. Take shower, brush teeth, read a little of something like a book or short story (no news) and then settle into bed. I also use a certain hand lotion right before bed, and only before bed. The smell tells me, it’s time to sleep now. Keeping it consistent even when I am smoking again really helps.

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    Basic sleep hygiene, no large meals in the evening, try to avoid blue light (blue light filters for screens or avoid screens), try to cool bedoom down before going to bed. Earplugs might help as well. Complete darkness. All those nasty power leds, tape on them. I myself have smart lights so I can’t make them red and real dim so as to avoid any disturbance through light.

    Aside from that, melatonin ~30-60 min before hopping into bed and often an ambien 30-5 min before.

    Then again that’s even when I do smoke. And I’m understating my medication slightly.

    For me the best substitute when I quit weed was genuinely Terry Pratchett novels. They’re sort of whimsical and provoking humorous thoughts. Much like weed often does. And the books are exceedingly good natured, even the baddies aren’t really that evil. Usually they’re more like arbitrary concepts.

    So tldr sleep hygiene and reading under a somewhat low light while the room cools down and when it gets too cold and you’re getting tired of reading, close the window and hop into a crispy bed.

    Should help at least. Some of these things at least. Probably. Maybe.

    • All those nasty power leds, tape on them.

      We’ve banned anything with yellow, green, or blue LEDs in the bedroom. On top of that:

      Complete darkness.

      I’ve personally enforced this with some very nice eye shades. If I put them on in even broad daylight I can sleep easily if I’m ready for sleep. They’re like blackout curtains for your eyes. (My SO doesn’t do this; his loss.)

      As an extra, I take one shot of liquor an hour before I go to bed. After an hour all the alcohol is metabolized (do not go to sleep with a measurable blood alcohol level!) so I’m relaxed and mellow and ready for sleep.

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        As an extra, I take one shot of liquor an hour before I go to bed. After an hour all the alcohol is metabolized (do not go to sleep with a measurable blood alcohol level!) so I’m relaxed and mellow and ready for sleep.

        It might help get to sleep, but it harms the quality of your sleep. So does my ambien of course, but less so than alcohol, as it’s actually a pharmaceutical designed for that. But it is a drug to get to sleep, primarily.

        https://www.wmchealth.org/blogs/the-truth-about-nightcaps-ditch-the-drink-get-a-go-783

        Alcohol interferes with the crucial rapid eye movement (REM) sleep stage, impacting memory, learning and mood.

        Get some sort of cheap health wristband activity thingy if you want to follow your sleep better. I’ve liked mine, got it last year for 39€. It shows the amount of REM, deep and light sleeps. It might be that you do sleep better with a single drink, but generally science does tend to agree that it reduces quality of sleep. However a few times when I’ve been properly drunk, I’ve actually slept like twice as much and thus gotten more REM sleep, and felt more relaxed when I woke up. But I would say that alcohol does reduce my quality of sleep most of the time, even if it doesn’t necessarily feel like that.

        But again, not judging I don’t know what works for you and I take ambien pretty much every night so that’s pretty comparable to one shot imo

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            You’re thinking that when you don’t have alcohol in your blood and it’s broken down by your body, that “it’s not in your system”? The breakdown produces for instance acetaldehyde and then further into acetate. That’s why people get hangovers and are still sick a long time after the buzz has worn off and there’s no alcohol in their blood.

            If you drink alcohol today, the metabolites are still detectable in urine for a few days. No-one just ever tests for those, but actual BAC.

            • You can detect metabolites of almost anything in urine and/or stool for days. That’s not the question here. The question is do these metabolites interfere with sleep?

              From personal experience I know it’s a REALLY bad idea to sleep with any measurable blood alcohol content. When I’ve done that, I fall asleep quickly but I wake up feeling more tired than when I fell asleep. When I let it metabolize first, the quality of the sleep improves dramatically. So it sounds like acetaldehyde and acetate don’t impact my sleep negatively at all.

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                And from science I know it affects the quality of your sleep.

                You do whatever you like but don’t argue against science with some shitty reasoning you made up. That really screams alcohol problem.

                So it sounds like acetaldehyde and acetate don’t impact my sleep negatively at all.

                Oh yes you just must be immune and the science is wrong, gotcha

                • The modern version of “it is written in scripture” is “studies say”.

                  The modern equivalent of “I’m a flaming asshole” is to attribute negative characteristics like “alcohol problem” without evidence. (Ironically this is also anti-science, but let’s not sprain what passes for your brain too strongly here.)

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    I usually do fine on my own, but if I’m struggling, ASMR videos can really put me to sleep.

    I don’t really like the ones with girls doing your hair or skincare that are the top search results (but lots of people like them and they might work for you!), and prefer ones that are just simple wooden blocks, glass beads, washboards, etc.

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    • 6 hours before bed: no more caffeine intake. Some people may need to go as high as 12
    • 3 hours before bed: no more food
    • 2 hours before bed: no more drinks (not everyone needs this; I have to pee a lot and getting out of bed just before falling asleep or waking up midway sucks)
    • 1.5 hours before bed: shower followed by hot bath. Especially if you’re somewhere like Japan where insulation is a joke and everything is drafty and cold currently
    • 1 hour before bed: no more active content (games, study, etc.) and preferably no serious content. Watch/read something only for pleasure, meditate, etc. ideally, avoid blue light and bright light in general.
    • bedtime: no screens nor lights. Cooler, comfortable temperatures are good. Have comfortable sheets, bedclothes (if you wear them), potentially blackout curtains, etc. and keep them clean

    Also, if at all possible, wake up and go to bed at the same time every day including weekends.

    This works for me when in the system. The only bad part is if I’m on call or on holiday, my schedule easily gets smashed and takes a long time to get back (some people are luckier and can adjust instantly). Edit: Also, try to make sure you ARE getting light during the waking hours, preferably natural light; this helps with your body’s natural rhythms.

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    so taking a long, hot bath before bed helps me sleep and we got a red light therapy unit and that does it to. Combining both and oh man hard to keep my eyes open.

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    Valerian root tea is the only thing that works for me. It tastes awful though, so drink it like medicine.

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      Oh shit, completely forgot about this. Used an extract the first time doing this and it totally did help - only issue was I stayed asleep a lot longer than intended, and was kinda groggy, but did get some full nights out of it. Thanks! May give that a shot again.

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    I don’t really have any tips but last night was my first nights sleep for this break and it wasn’t great, so just commenting for solidarity! XD

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      💪You got this! Dunno what your experience with cannabis and breaks in general is, but it does taper off, and when it does whoo boy, sleep quality sky rockets (though I can only speak for myself, YMMV).

      Sometimes after only a couple days (that was awesome, but I was smoking pretty mild stuff up to it), sometimes after a couple weeks (my first serious one many years back, with this one looking similar :( Stupid hash era)

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        Cheers man and this is definitely not my first rodeo. I smoked everyday for around 10 years before before having a break and yeh that took a few weeks before I got back to some kind of normality.

        This time I’ve just smoked everyday for about a month so this one will taper of super quickly for me. I just hate that these days my tolerance sky rockets at the same speed when I do go back to smoking xD

        Either way I’m looking forward to the hectic dreams in the next week or more but quality wise I find it isn’t a lot different between being high and not, the only difference is without smoking I dont jump out of bed quite as quickly to have my first smoke.

        Have a good day man!

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    Physical activity. Do something until you sweat and then do it 5 minutes more. Do that 3 times a day und you will fall asleep from exhaustion. Works every time.

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    what do you folks generally do to optimize beddy-bye time?

    Most of the time, I don’t look at any screen.

    Instead, I read (paper book, a journal or a magazine), chat with my spouse, sketch and journal. Earlier in the evening, we may decide to watch a DVD together, but that’s not everyday. No coffee and seldom any tea late in the evening (or something herbal, then).

    And almost without exception, the moment I put my head on the pillow I fall asleep. There have been many exceptions to that rule, mind you. That was back in those days where I was trying to escape my own personal daemons instead of facing them (like not getting rid of my own addictions and bad habits).

    Like already suggested in the comments, if you have hard time sleeping melatonin is an option but on the short-term only. Don’t make it a long-term habit. I also consider the extra sleep it may give you not the best sleep, no surprise you may feel groggy.

    To the insomniacs, what are some things you do in the wee hours/early morning for a relaxing start to your day?

    Since I don’t need much sleep and I do my best work early in the morning, most of the days I wake up very early, around 3-4 AM and… I don’t look at any screen either. Imho, it’s even truer to realize that screens and online content are pure poison to the mind and to the soul early in the morning, like they’re in the evening.

    I drink a large glass of water and appreciate the quietness for a few minutes. I may flip some pages of a book but most often I just sit or stand still breathing slowly. It probably is the closest thing to meditation, for me.

    After I shower and dress, I’ll sit at my desk and start writing longhand—no screen remember, and no music either. Nothing but the still sleeping city around me with its otherworldly quietness, and me slowly scratching some paper with my fountain pen. (In summer, I’ll open the window next to my desk or even go sit on our balcony so I can better appreciate that magical quietness, and a little later start enjoying the company of the earlier-riser of the few remaining birds, the ones that start singing their songs well before car/bus/motorcycle engines overrun their voice for the rest of the day.)

    I will write up until we’re getting close to the time my spouse usually wakes up @ 7-8AM (btw, we both work from home) at which time I’ll prepare breakfast and, while she is getting ready, I often will go grab some fresh pastry for her at the local bakery (they’re handmade and she loves them). We have a quiet but also chatty breakfast together. When she’s ready to start working I will go out for my first walk of the day, in order to get my body moving.

    Now, the normal day is allowed to start, with its constant noise and its unexpected and very often less than pleasant events. I’m ready ;)

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      I’m not trying to be pedantic, but your use of the word daemon caught my eye, and being a curious person, I looked up daemon vs. demon. Since you mentioned writing, I figured you’d be interested in the results. In short, most of the time they’re interchangeable alternate spellings, but in mythological or religious contexts, daemons are actually helpful spirits of dead people or lesser deities. TIL! https://english.stackexchange.com/a/39269

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        You did very well to check and to share the info back with us. Thx.

        I should have known better than to use the word ‘daemon’, knowing its etymology and knowing what I meant to say. My poor choice of spelling was mainly caused both by my lacking English (and by me taking a lazy shortcut in my head), and by me not reaching for the Webster or the Collins dictionaries that constantly sit on my desk at arm’s reach, for that very purpose, right next to my French dictionaries. I’m really too lazy.