That would be epic

If the legs for both bears are in stride it’s an illusion that it’s one bear. Kind of like an army march

Here is an example of what I mean. From side it’s a 2 headed dog but from angle it’s 2 dogs.

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Would have been funny if it hit Buenos aires

It’s perspective hahahah

Funny part first time I saw it I thought it could be 2 bears in profile for California mark 2.

Lol “how can you betray your mother?”

'How can you betray your son?"

My mom opened a credit card In my name and racked up a bill that I had to pay for. At least she felt needed to do that since her credit is trash and needed money to feed my siblings. I wish she told me so I could have just given it to her. Also she gave me way more over the years. Especially compared to my partners dead beat family. I wonder what OP mom excuse is.

Roller coaster. Welp time to prepare resume.

I have soooo much to say here but ill let the top comment do some of if

Yeah she 100% killed that poor bird on purpose. Cockatoo’s are pretty big and it would be pretty difficult to accidentally stomp it to death in bare feet. Also if lying down in the hallway? What an absolute psycho

blueflash775

and it was still alive. DO you:

a) put it in a box and hide it in a cupboard?

b) find the nearest emergency vet and take it there?

For those unsure, the correct answer is b.

Some other choice comments. I want to know who she is so I can avoid her at all costs. I like her writing style, very matter of fact to minimise the horror of her behaviour. “Why do you all hate me so”?

He hates being cornered, and I knew that and decided to use that against him

We had gotten into a heated argument (although one-sided. Admittedly, it was just a slew of insults on my end

During the argument, I had said some things that were based upon a few of his many insecurities, and had said some awful things to him that I didn’t actually feel about him (Added) “He’ll stay with me either way. He has no choice in the matter. Other than the dumb bird he has no one else that supports him like I do. Unless he wants to die depressed and lonely, he’ll stay with me.”

With support like that…

[–]NynaeveAlMeowra

Yeah that stuck out as insanely sick in the head. According to her it was still alive so instead of getting it taken care of she stuffs it in a box to suffer

flyingmotorbike

Cockatoos live for 30+ years. They also require almost 24/7 care and what we was doing was 100% normal for cockatoo owners. They are one of the most demanding birds for care taking. You would know this if you talk to him about his hobby but it doesn’t seem like you care much about him in the relationship. You’re more worried about him hating you than how he’s going to feel about losing his bird he could’ve had decades more with.

Edit: They actually live around 50 years,

OOP

Even when he wasn’t taking care of the bird, he’d do weird things like talk to it. I mean, I get why people talk to dogs, but a bird??

We live together but I still felt like he was giving the bird more attention than he was giving his own girlfriend.

Whispurrr_ur

Grow the fuck up. He loved his bird! Haven’t you ever loved anything beyond yourself? People talk to their pets, how is this such a strange concept to you, are you a sociopath OP?

You’re too immature and mentally unstable to be in a relationship. I hope he realises this and fucking runs!

update Oct 15, 2018

Copy of the update

I’d like to start this off with a ‘thanks for absolutely nothing’. I posted to this site for advice, but got nothing but criticism and false accusations. I figured that you guys would appreciate an update, and are satisfied with the end result. :/

He came home this morning (or later in the morning of the incident, as it had happened at 3am… He came home around 8 or 9am). We talked for a bit about what happened, and he seemed to be fine for the most part. He was hesitant in asking if I had fed the bird like he had asked me to. I told him no, and he asked me why. I told him that I couldn’t find the bird.

He gave me a weird look. I’m not even sure what kind of expression it was (sorr of like a grimace) and he asked me again where the bird was.

I told him the story of how I had accidentally stepped on it and he immediately told me that it was bullshit. He told me that the bird was trained to return to his cage after sunset, and that it wouldn’t just lie down in the middle of the hallway like that at 3 in the morning (much like you guys said… except I was telling the truth).

I had never seen him so upset, or angry for that matter. He accused me of killing the bird on purpose, which is something I didn’t do, and something that no one believed me when I say that was an accident, for whatever reason.

He asked me to leave the house, and I refused, as I didn’t know if he was planning to hurt himself or something if I left. He locked himself inside his office and he won’t talk to me. I fear for his wellbeing, and I won’t be there to stop him if he tries to do anything drastic.

tl;dr: boyfriend is convinced that i killed the bird on purpose (which i didn’t). has been in his office all morning to this afternoon and i can’t get him to talk to me / come out

How do I get him to listen to me ?? A majority of you are convinced that I killed the bird on purpose and that I’m abusive even though that is not the case. It was an accident, and I am being misunderstood.

I just don’t know what to do.

THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP

DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP’s OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7

Nice SIL knows what’s up. I think brother just wants to see he’s favorite singer preform again. I know the feelings since i want to see my partner do art again.

Dude is living hard mode. God bless

NEW UPDATE–

TIFU by getting fired because i cried (Final Update) January 20, 2025

Original Post: Aug 20, 2021

First Update: Jan 9, 2023

(First update reposted by u/swtogirl on r/BestofRedditorUpdates because the original was removed.)

First of all, I’m writing this here because I can’t, for the life of me, figure out how to post on any of the previous subreddits without it getting removed. I don’t think this will reach far, but to those who were interested, here we go:

OK, so basically, three years ago, I posted the original post on r/tifu. A tiny TLDR for those who have no clue what I’m talking about. I’m from Iran, and two years ago, when life was really getting me down, I cried in front of my boss, and he fired me. Then, people encouraged me to leave Iran and pursue happiness somewhere else. In the following months, protests broke out, and because I was heavily involved in the protests, I got fired from the university, and the move to Germany was off. I had to move to a neighboring country with nothing in my pockets. I became homeless and lost everything. I was on the verge of ending everything when I made a small update, and initially, it went unnoticed, but somebody reposted it on here, drawing attention to it. Since my original post was removed, it still is up here.

Now, let’s get back to what has happened since then. A couple of very kind Redditors reached out and helped me through those tough times, for which I will be immensely thankful forever. If it weren’t for them, I’d either be dead or not where I am today. A couple of months after my post, I found someone who provided me with shelter and food in exchange for work on his farm. I also started tutoring his daughter, for which he paid me, and I saved up bit by bit. In the meantime, I managed to obtain my university transcripts from Iran, had them translated, and applied to two universities in Germany. I had little to no hope considering where life had put me. I missed home, I missed family, but bit by bit, things were looking up. I got accepted into one of those universities, obtained my visa after two months, and now I’m in Germany. I DID IT!!! Finally!!!

Now I had a small problem of having to block 12000€ in a bank account to show them I can financially support myself. Obviously, I could not have, and I had a very tiny portion of that money. I did everything to get that money, so I borrowed it from whoever I could. It felt terrible to do so, but I just had to get to somewhere safe. Also, the way that system works guaranteed that I could not have been able to pay it back soon, so it was a nightmare. But I got it done anyway. And now I’m in Germany. I do have a pretty dainty debt problem, but I am here nonetheless. In fact, I have been here for a year and studying and finding a place and friends and everything. Since I didn’t speak a word of German and lived in a very small town, I only recently was able to find a job, and the debt problem still remains, but it’s been great otherwise. I have more freedom and security than I have ever had. I even found someone, and we are really happy together.

I have to mention though that 2 years ago, I was deeply involved in the protests in Iran, mainly on social media. For my safety, I couldn’t disclose my whereabouts, but now I can and I want to. I was in Turkey, and life was tough. However, some people in this country are just incredible. They took me in and helped me a lot, and at times, it even felt like home. So, to the people of Turkey, thank you for that. I had to hide from the VAJA (IR Ministry of Intelligence) because they wouldn’t leave me be, and you really helped me with that.

For my next chapter, not that anybody cares, I have decided to change everything and start from the ground up. I’m going to pursue politics and make real change happen because I don’t want anyone to go through what I have. I know it’s near impossible to achieve, but that doesn’t mean I won’t try. I really want to help my people, and that’s going to be my life’s purpose now.

Being in debt is a little scary. I hope I can manage to get out of it. But hey, I survived far worse things, so fingers crossed, I hope I can manage. I want to thank the incredible people who helped me during this time, and I want to thank the person who reposted my post on r/BestofRedditorUpdates. You are an absolute legend.

TL;DR: After being fired from my job and university, living in exile away from my beloved country, I’ve moved to Germany to pursue my passion and help my people in the long run. I’ve kept going, and I have no intention of stopping now.

Relevant Comments:

swtogirl:

I’m so glad to hear things are looking up for you, and you’re safe in Germany! I hope you continue to do well and make a positive impact on those around you! 💖

OOP:

Thank you! You really really helped by reposting it. Otherwise things would have ended long ago. Very grateful 🙏🏻

swtogirl:

I had a time in my life a little like that. Nothing was as extreme as what you went through, but I thought about ending it after a dark time in my life. Someone noticed and offered their friendship, and that saved me. Because of that, I try to find others who are in need and help however I can. It’s part of the reason I chose to be a teacher.

I know you’ll do great things in the future, big and small.

Reminder: I am not OOP. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. No Brigading! See rule 7.

For the past two months, I have been trying to find a job, but I haven’t been successful. I have a half-decent resume, but I keep getting rejected because of the country I’m in right now. I’m exhausted and out of options. I’m burning through my savings, and in a few weeks, I’m either going to have to be homeless or go back to Iran to get arrested. I’m in a really dark place and have little to no hope for what’s to come. I miss my friends and my family. I just wanted a normal life. I know I’m being pathetic, and I didn’t want to post this. I wanted to have something good happen so I could update you guys with happy news, but everything keeps getting worse. This will probably be my last post on this matter and on Reddit. Sorry if I let you guys down.

TL;DR: Got fired from university because of protests, didn’t get my undergraduate degree, and couldn’t move to Germany. Went to a neighboring country were i’m in the verge of becoming homeless or going back to Iran, where I’ll 100% be arrested.

deleted user:

Go to an embassy and seek asylum somewhere. Whatever you do don’t go back to Iran.

OOP:

I don’t think I can do that since there are no records of me being arrested or even the arrest warrant. They do that so you specifically can’t request asylum. A good lawyer can probably get the records, but I can’t afford that.

This is absurd behavior. Wierd that the ex is more apologetic when drunk. He knows he missed up but when sober backtrack? He feeling shame but prjde is in the way?

Scenarioing:

“He said he didn’t want to end his friendship or do anything to jeopardize it because “what if we break up.” This made me realize he would not protect me as his wife”

—Yep. The friend comes before you.

CrazyOldBag:

Don’t worry about the planned and prepaid events. Get out. Now. The relationship is dead; don’t wait until the stench kills everyone around you. If the money is lost no matter what, skip on out and give yourself the gift of more time to heal and deal.

Good luck, OP. You can do this!

Worth-Two7263:

Why do you have to truck through any pre-planned events? Honey, nothing is worth losing the time and space you will gain by bowing out now. He’s made clear that you are second, at best, in his life. Losing money is not fun, but losing time - the time you could be using to heal - is the best gift you can give yourself. Be kind to yourself first.

–NEW UPDATE–

AITAH for not allowing my finances’ bff attend our wedding - FINAL UPDATE August 31, 2024

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/ph0ln6I44a

First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/hchaElEubB

Original BLUF: I told my fiancé his best friend can’t come to our wedding. She pretends I don’t exist & he does nothing to address it.

My ex-fiancé did begin to make an effort to include me and make sure I was addressed during group events, even though we’d already separated.

Throughout the summer we had many conversations - not in hopes of reconciling, but mostly to make sure he truly understood the cause of our breakup.

While drunk he apologized for his messy & toxic friends, said he needed to reevaluate his friendships and apologized for bringing them into my life.

He changed his tune in later sober convos - I was met with continued excuses and my POV/ feelings being brushed off : “this isn’t that big of a deal, I don’t want to talk about it anymore. I have friends that have done worse”

The explanation/ insight I received is that the best friend was a side piece(knowingly) for like 7-10 years(guy had a baby, and brought his baby mother a house, car, and basically got married, all while stringing the friend along)… and as a result the bff has since always asserted herself as being the “most important” woman in her male friends lives.

All in all, just going to go to therapy, heal some shit, move on. I’m starting piano lessons soon, and taking a language class to pass my free time. Also focusing on cooking again & moving my body. I’m going to lose about 40-50lbs

Thanks everyone for commenting,offering solutions & alternative POV, including those who felt I was making a big deal out of nothing and that I was trying to make her be friends with me(never wanted that). I felt crazy for a while, but I’m thankful for the random strangers on Reddit confirming I’m not.

Relevant Comments:

ayymahi:

I kept up with your post & that man’s an idiot!

Threw everything away for a friend like that…to me theirs more than what he’s saying & I wouldn’t be surprised if they end up together! But it’s done now he’s not your problem he’s hers. Onward & upward

Ginger630:

I’m so glad you broke up with him. Now go NC. Stop communicating. You only have to explain once why you dumped him. If he doesn’t understand, that isn’t your problem.

And she wants to be the most important woman in her guy friends’ lives?! Omg lmao! They’re either all going to be single or they’re going to drop her one by one as they get girlfriends and wives.

AlarmingResist3564:

God that friend sounds HORRIBLE. Knowingly helps someone cheat for a freaking decade, then decides she has to be the most important woman in every male friend’s life?? Who the F would want someone like that in their life?! Enjoy your life without them in it!

OOP:

That’s what I said, but I minded my business. Apparently the side piece relationship she was just the other woman technically but he wasn’t actually dating anyone. So idk if it’s cheating but still- i wouldn’t want that for myself. No self respect

Reminder: I am not OOP. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. No Brigading! See rule 7.

Couldn’t imagine my siblings pulling this off.

The real takeaway: I have an amazing wife, but her humor could use some work! Also, my brother ain’t too bad.

Sidenote: Speaking of whom, my brother will probably never see this because he only uses Reddit for sports and news (or so he says), but in the off chance he does, well… guess I’m busted.

But since I have your attention, I’ll admit something just this once. You are the best bro I could have asked for. That time you helped me for uni, I don’t think you know how much it really meant to me. And when I was at a really low point, you stood by me. I don’t think I’ve ever said it, but I’ve always appreciated that.

Of course, I won’t ever admit this in person and will forever deny I ever wrote this.

TLDR: My SIL uninvited my wife from her baby shower after a joke. My brother wanted me to come anyway, but I refused to go without my wife. It caused some tension, but after a few unexpected conversations, things actually worked out—and I came out of it appreciating my brother even more.

Well that worked out. wished it worked for my brother’s

Update (same thread) - May 14, 2024

OP here, thought I’d provide an update. I really stuck to my guns over the lap top and phone usage, and after a week or so of sulking (or adjusting, still not sure), my son decided to go on anti depressants. At the same time, he started to experience more of the world just by hanging around us more. My husband made him go into the office with him every single day to look for a job. My son did the bare minimum, but eventually my husband found him a job that looked interesting and he applied and got the job! It’s just a job, not a career path, but it has changed our worlds. My son now works full time AND has kept his old weekend job. He now works about 10 days in a row, then gets a day off. By choice! With his first paycheck last month, he bought some new clothes (the first in several years) and some accessories for his bike. He is now planning on what to do with his next paycheck. He is also making friends at his new job, and goes biking with the guys after work. He’s found his passion for biking again. I cannot stress enough the utter relief we feel. I can now sleep at night, and I no longer worry about him. Sure, he needs to figure out a longer term plan but for now we can sit back and watch him discover the world again, and that it’s actually quite a nice place.

How to get my child moving in life? - July 20, 2024

Parent of a child in a similar situation until I took action. My husband took the same stance as you, that nothing much could be done. We disagreed to the point of real marital stress. I had an epiphany and waited until he left for a business trip then tackled the problem. My house, my rules. I removed my sons computer, phone, and all other devices and stored them offsite. 23 year old threw a fit and stayed in bed for 3 days, didn’t move. I checked on him to make sure he was alive, took him coffee and food, talked calmly. After day 3 he got out of bed, sulked, went back to bed again. This time I did nothing. No food, no water, no conversation. He stayed in bed in a dark room and wallowed. I of course was worried and checked for movement but no more than that. After a few more days he got out of bed and said he didn’t want to live like this anymore, agreed he needed a change, agreed he needed antidepressants, and started hanging out with the family. I gave him his phone ONLY when he left the house. Want access to the internet? Go and get it, I will not provide it. That was in January of this year. By March he was several weeks into antidepressants, he was regaining a relationship with his siblings, he was no longer as angry, and he had a job. Full disclosure, my husband found the job, pretty applied for the job for our son, but my son got the job. He’s been working ever since, has made friends, goes cycling. Our lives have all changed because of it.

You CAN do more. You can give her purpose. Stop facilitating her lifestyle. Take away her internet access. It could be the motivation she needs.

Good luck - I know its hard.

Update (same thread) - February 13, 2025

OP here again. I want to provide an update for any parents in the same boat who stumble upon this thread. It’s been a year since my original post, and our lives have changed unrecognisably for the better. After my son started work, his confidence grew and his self-esteem improved. He had purpose. Over the last year we kept revisiting the move, and sometimes things got heated, but we stuck to our guns until we gave him a hard deadline. The deadline came and we made him leave the house. It was so hard, we didn’t sleep for two days, and my husband caved and asked him to come back. The shock of us making him move into a hotel had the desired effect. It took several more months and lots of reminding, but he eventually found a place on his own and moved out last month into his own place. He is now living independently just a few minutes from his work and is loving it. He enjoys earning money and paying his own way. He has experienced buying a washing machine, learned how to plumb it in, and understands that sometimes you have to take a day off work to accept deliveries. He is learning that no-one is going to unpack the boxes but himself and that if he wants food, he has to go and buy it, even if he’s tired. We offer our help and have of course helped a lot, but we haven’t picked up any pieces. This is all on him. And best of all? Our relationship is getting back on track. He comes over every Sunday for dinner, hangs out, and catches us up with his news. He is feeling so good about himself and loves standing on his own two feet.

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Bruh said invasion of his privacy when he put up cameras? Plus brother reaction is odd. Like i would looking for ways to permanently resolve the issue but he is ok with it?

Either:

1. HE KNEW
2. he was scared of x
3. he does plan to “resolve” it but is waiting for time to pass to eliminate suspicion.